To all my #girlfriends
Before we are #women, wives, daughters, #mothers, daughters-in-law, employees and a hundred other designations, we are simply human beings. Sometimes, in a race to fulfil these roles, we forget to be with ourselves. We forget what it is like to be a human being without a designation.
We are always racing to fulfil some responsibility. Men of course have their
own set of mammoth responsibilities. But there is one small difference. A woman
never gets a break, especially mothers. It’s a role we are happy with but it’s
a role that takes a lot.
Sometimes, there is an input-output imbalance.
Sometimes, we have to make do with that imbalance, but sometimes there are
miraculous opportunities wherein nine girlfriends somehow manage to enrol their
families and their children to spend a day without them.
Such was that weekend. Nine of us decided to stay over at
five-star resort (courtesy our respective husbands) for a night. Without
children and husbands. We drove to the resort in groups with our favourite
music blaring, banging our heads like teenage girls and giggling at the
surrealness of that moment.
Once we arrived, we headed for the lavish buffet.
It seemed odd, to be able to relish each morsel and talk without a hundred
interruptions and emergency exits to the loo. Odd but refreshing. Back to our rooms
overlooking the pine tree lawns, nine of got down to the job of chilling the
evening refreshments and of course, taking selfies.
I’m a disaster when it
comes to selfies. But I was with the pros. By the end of the night, I knew how
to pout and pose in my most flattering angle. In between the crazy selfie
marathon, we got all dressed up for... the pool. Never thought one could dress
up for the pool. But we did, sarongs and chunky neckpieces and some with even
sported make-up.
We raised quite a few eyebrows. People aren’t used to seeing women
our age hanging out by ourselves at a resort. They expect to see children
pulling at our hems and us tailing after our husbands. The green monster of
envy spat at us from a few observation corners at the resort. It just made our
getaway more memorable.
It is hilarious the amount of time we women took to get
ready for an evening inside the room. It was like we were making up for all the
hurried dress-ups in the past. Later, music, spirit, funky eye-masks and spin
the bottle dominated the evening frivolities.
We wished we could #party like we
were in our teens, but alas, 2 am the ladies bid us three roomies adieu. Unwilling
to end the night, one of us pinged all the sleeping beauties at 3 am just for
the fun of it. Only to be hung up on. Girlfirends or not, no one is compromising
on their beauty sleep.
Come morning, we had breakfast and got ready to explore
the grounds. And guess what... more selfies. An observer might have judged us
to be self-absorbed, narcissistic birds. Far from it.
We were women with
enormous responsibilities #rejuvenating, taking care of ourselves so we could
take care of our loved ones, better than before. We were women who do not
believe in sacrificing their mind, body and soul for their loved ones. We were
women who believe in strengthening ourselves so we could be better mothers,
wives, daughters, daughters-in-law and human beings.